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6 Positive Thinking Errors


Positive thinking is not just about ways of thinking and communication. Behavior and what we do also have a significant impact. We make several mistakes against the positive approach, which prevents us from effectively applying a positive approach. Let's look at them.

6 Positive Thinking Errors


  • we have no goal in life

  • we follow widespread opinions

  • we can't sell enough

  • we are too concerned with the past

  • we are dealing with things that are beyond our control

  • we think negatively

1) We have no goal in life


It does not have to be life goals, but we should be clear about what we want. What we want to achieve where we are going. Our mind needs to clamp on something. If he doesn't have a clear target, he dies. If we don't know what we want, we can't clearly say which steps are right and which are not. We let ourselves be overwhelmed by external influences, which are consequently even more difficult to handle.

As the cat says, "Alice": If you don't care where you're going, no matter which way you go.

But people often say something else and do something else. On the practice of positive thinking, we have one question: "What values are most important to you or what you have in your life in the first place?" Among the answers, such as family, children, health is a common response. At the break, those who mentioned health leave for a cigarette.

If you have a goal, you can point to it. It does not mean that you will be without a doubt, without hesitation and without feeling that sometimes it goes from ten to five. However, with a clear idea of ​​what you want and keeping it in mind, you will be able to handle the negative thoughts far better.

Ask yourself the following questions:

Think about your goals.

Are the objectives consistent?

Do the goals support each other?

Are you taking steps to really fulfill your goals?

2) We follow widespread opinions


The natural tendency leads us to repeat what others do. Sometimes we call it a herd effect. Remember what was said about spinach. Parents repeated to us all, eat spinach, there is a lot of iron. And Popeye Sailor has built a career on it.

Subject to general beliefs can lead to many feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction. Why is that so? Since we were encouraged to meet certain standards, we are comparing, wanting us not to stand out, but at the same time to achieve great results.

Maybe even you sometimes parents said: "Annie surely has one, she doesn't like you, well they learn." And perhaps you've used the same tactics, only in reverse: "But John has four, I have only two minutes." And then your parents you got upset and learned that: "I don't care what others have, the important thing is that you have better marks… If you don't learn well, none of you will be. ” It is said that who learns well somewhere will make it. However, this is clearly not confirmed by practice. Of course, we do not want to discredit education, but even a person who is not successful at school can be very successful in life.

Freedom of thought is assertiveness, and assertive rights show a way to confront the manipulations that make widespread opinions about us.

3) We cannot sell enough


Although we have been negotiating and trying to assert ourselves against authorities, we have a problem to sell in adulthood. It is not about the seller's profession, even if it is true. We have goals, needs, desires, but the influence of circumstances drags us in different directions and our goals are not fulfilled. We are dissatisfied, frustrated, maybe even envious. The others are asking for us, we cannot reject them, and we meet the demands of others over and over again.

Again, an assertive approach can help. The principles of assertiveness enable us to name needs, desires, formulate them and also realize them. At the same time, assertiveness helps to reject, without guilt, the demands your surroundings have on you.

4) We are too concerned with the past


Everything we can change begins with this moment and continues into the future. All that has been past and we will not do anything about it. Yet many people tend to drown in the past. The fourth error is closely related to the fifth error.

We are dealing with things that we cannot change. You can't change the past, you can learn from it, maybe try to correct the steps that you didn't, but what you do next is essential. Therefore, think about what you will do in the future.

And one more thing. It's not enough to think. It is also necessary to do something, take the necessary steps.

5) We deal with things that are beyond our control


A common mistake in a positive attitude is to try to influence things that are beyond our influence.

Leaving aside the fact that people often deal with the weather they have minimal influence on, the other common thing with minimal control is that they want others to treat them differently. This is very difficult to achieve. Of course, you can manipulate someone, but it's usually short-lived.

But what we can change is our approach and our behavior. There we have full control.

Therefore, if you are seeking change, consider the following questions:

What is my control over the situation?

Can I influence things?

What is my influence?

6) We think negatively


Negative thoughts penetrate us very easily. We often have them learned. By comparing ourselves with others we often doubt ourselves, we do not believe. This is not just about our person, but also about the development of situations. We say: it will not go well, this will certainly not happen.

One of Henry Ford's quotes says: "If you think you can, you probably are right. If you think you can't, you're probably also right".

In other words, whether we achieve our goals is derived from the state of our mind. I was able to try myself for myself that your surroundings will challenge your surroundings reliably. If you join yourself, then your goals are counted.